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5.10.2007


My OB looked at the blue sticky note dangling from my file this afternoon and remarked, “so, I guess we’ve got an appointment tomorrow, you and me.”

We do?

For what?

“For induction.”

Wh-a-a?

“You didn’t know?”

No, no one told me. I thought it was next week. Monday. Maybe Tuesday. But nope…tomorrow it is.

5/11/07

Weird to know the birthday in advance, isn’t it?

(On a side note, Nate was cute this morning. He said, “so, I know you’re a little worried about dealing with pitocin…would it be easier just to schedule a C-section instead? I mean, don’t people just do that?” My OB got a kick out of that one.)

So unless the cramping from today’s membrane stripping (not nearly as burlesque as it sounds) turns into contractions tonight, I will be induced tomorrow early morning in a sunny hospital room overlooking New York’s East River. Sorry to disappoint you but there will be no frantic rush to the hospital story. No water breaking in the middle of Haagen Daaz story. No pacing the Brooklyn Promenade at midnight in labor story.

Just a scheduled car trip across the Brooklyn Bridge and up the FDR drive in the traffic-light wee hours (5:30 is pretty wee to me) of the morning.

I’m grateful for the time to plan, actually. As my friend Hally says, it suits my anal Virgo ways.

What this plan-ahead Virgo hadn’t planned for however is just how hard it was to send Thalia off to Grandma’s for the night. Saying goodbye to her was unexpectedly heart crushing, knowing that the next time I see her, everything will have changed; she’s trading in her only child status for good. For better. For sisterhood and solidarity and all that good stuff. But I admit I’m mourning the end of this part of my journey with her. I will always remember this last week we had together, just the two of us–singing to videos, playing picnic with her animals (PARTY! she would scream, hands raised in the air, with every “cupcake” she served), knocking down towers of blocks, cuddling on the couch.

Above all, I’ll remember the moment that she pulled up my shirt, looked at my belly and said, “baby’s coming. Open the door.”

Indeed.

“Remember, no eating after midnight,” the nurse reminded me as I tried to contain my emotion and anxiety behind my sunglasses.

Which immediately made me think of what to have for my last meal. I was thinking pancakes. My friend Danielle suggested waffles. Either way, I know what I’ll be having tomorrow night.

94 shards of brilliance… read them below or add one

Piece of Work May 10, 2007 at 10:27 pm

Good luck! I’m so excited for you!

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PunditMom May 10, 2007 at 10:27 pm

Good luck with the pitocin thing. I’m glad you had a great week with Thalia. You’ll still have alone time with her sometimes, but I bet she’ll be a wonderful big sister! ;)

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Amy May 10, 2007 at 10:36 pm

Hope all goes well, smooth and quick for you!! Here’s to a new cuddly baby!!

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Silicon Valley Moms Group May 10, 2007 at 10:39 pm

I don’t understand why you just wouldn’t have the tuna roll tonight. It isn’t going to do any harm. Then again, just think of that as your goal is a good thought too.

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Suzanne May 10, 2007 at 10:39 pm

Enjoy your pancakes or waffles. I’ll save the mazel tov for after the event.

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surcie May 10, 2007 at 10:54 pm

Good luck and godspeed!

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annie May 10, 2007 at 11:04 pm

Yay! Push your way to spicy tuna land… pitocin, shmitocin. Congrats, keep us posted. :)

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Builder Mama May 10, 2007 at 11:05 pm

Good luck! And Thalia’s comment…too cute for words. She will be a great big sister!

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Fairly Odd Mother May 10, 2007 at 11:12 pm

Be prepared for the first time Thalia, your BIG BIG little girl walks into the hotel room. I gasped and then burst into tears when it happened to me. It is so bizarre to have another little baby and then see your toddler, who suddenly looks so much older. Rest assured, Thalia will just think its cool to visit a hotel room, see her family and—oh yeah, the baby is cute can we go to that vending machine again? I was hiccuping back big sobs of guilt over ruining Belly’s status of ‘one and only’, and she was just wondering where I got all those saltines and where could she get some.Many, many hugs to you and cannot WAIT for the news of her arrival. Enjoy your spicy tuna!

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Anonymous May 10, 2007 at 11:12 pm

It is hard, knowing things are going to change so much. Especially since you didn’t have much notice. I hope you get some rest tonight so you are ready for the big day. Can’t wait for the news! Jill

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binkytown May 10, 2007 at 11:14 pm

I feel bittersweet for you reading that! It must be hard knowing what Thalia can’t know but you are absolutely right, sisterhood is a blessing.(And don’t mean to be all up in your uterus with ass-vice but I was induced and it took a looooooong time. I’m just saying, pack some magazines and have the sushi now. You’re going to be tired tomorow either way.)

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mrs. q May 10, 2007 at 11:20 pm

WHEEEEE! I’m so excited for you. I get misty even thinking of the first meeting between baby #1 and #2. I haven’t spent a full night away from the little guy yet, so I’m sure I’ll be a wreak.BTW- I had a dose of pitocin with the little man to ‘speed things up’ (now I think, “why on earth did I want to speed things up?!”)– just make sure you are on an epidural by then. Thinking of you and sending happy, strong pushes your way. Enjoy the maki!

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ster May 10, 2007 at 11:25 pm

lmfao @ open the door! TOO STINKING CUTE! omg, congrats and good luck and YAY!!!!!! love you!

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Erin M May 10, 2007 at 11:30 pm

pitocin isnt bad, Ive had it with all my kiddos and 2 of my babies I birthed with no pain meds. For the record i have a very low tolerance for pain so i’m not just blowing smoke up your ass. Good luck, best wishes and your “last” meal should be protein heavy or you might just chew the nurses arm off for nourishment during labor

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Susan Getgood May 10, 2007 at 11:47 pm

Good luck tomorrow and an early welcome to your little Taurus. And enjoy the sushi. I had the same craving when I was pregnant. Unagi and California Roll just didn’t cut it. I don’t even really remember what my husband brought me that night, but I know it was RAW. And the funny thing — my son (now 7) adores sushi. Minus the wasabi at this point but he can inhale an order of sake and maguro sashimi.

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theotherbear May 10, 2007 at 11:58 pm

Good luck, hope all goes well :)

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mothergoosemouse May 11, 2007 at 12:08 am

You’ll do great. So will Nate and Thalia. The tuna – well, he doesn’t know what’s in store for him, so he’s happy too.With Tacy, I was scheduled for an induction. I grew very attached to that date. And we made it with 18 minutes to spare. ;)

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Kyla May 11, 2007 at 12:45 am

My youngest was scheduled for an induction at 5am on Feb 22nd. I went into labor the night before and she was born at 4:56am on Feb 22nd, just under the wire. *lol*

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judy May 11, 2007 at 12:51 am

It’s all happening!! Yay! The next post you’ll be MOM 102!!!

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chris May 11, 2007 at 1:24 am

Hurray for May birthdays!The night before I had my scheduled induction with my second my water broke.

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Shannon May 11, 2007 at 1:33 am

Hey Liz – Good luck and happy vibes and all that!! I do have to ditto what others have said… get some magazines. I went in for induction on 9/20 at 8 am and my stubborn little girl didn’t arrive until 8:30 pm on the 21st. But it wasn’t all pain or anything. Just boring wait time.

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Christina May 11, 2007 at 1:39 am

Awww..guess I’m the last one to go, eh? Seriously, hope everything goes smoothly tomorrow, and you’re holding your new little girl soon. Last chance to battle over a name, right?Because I’m a VBAC, I can’t be induced, so I have to just wait it out. My doctor’s visit was today, and so far nothing is happening.Good luck and good drugs to you!

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Major Bedhead May 11, 2007 at 1:48 am

Good luck tomorrow. I got the shock of my life when I saw my 20 month-old after I had her little sister. She went from being “the baby” to a big girl like *that.* It’s a very bittersweet moment, one I’m still not sure I’m used to, 9 months later.

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jdg May 11, 2007 at 2:03 am

have a safe and quick delivery!

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reluctant housewife May 11, 2007 at 2:21 am

Congrats!Here’s to a safe delivery…and welcome to the club!My assvice – try to sleep. Ha Ha!

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Girl con Queso May 11, 2007 at 2:41 am

EEEEeeeeeekkk! I’m so excited! Texas is rooting for you guys! And we can’t wait to meet ol’ what’s her name. Whoooohoooo! Thalia’s sister rules! (And so does T)

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Mrs. D May 11, 2007 at 2:47 am

awww! You are blessed with Thalia, she’s awesome. I pray that all goes well for you and your family.Enjoy your new baby. As for US… we’ll be here … waiting patiently. oh yea.. PICTURES.. por favor.

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Upside Up May 11, 2007 at 2:47 am

oh good luck! good luck! good luck! can’t wait to see you on the flip side.

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Christine May 11, 2007 at 2:50 am

Wow, Fairly Odd Mother expressed all I wanted to share, and far more eloquently than I would have.So all I have left to say is CONGRATULATIONS!!!Oh, and I can’t WAIT to hear what you’ve named your little girl.And one last thing…in the words of the wise Mr. McFeely, “Speedy Delivery!”

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Damselfly May 11, 2007 at 3:05 am

Whoa, no way! Blessings to you!

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Marty, a.k.a. canape May 11, 2007 at 3:12 am

Wishing you and your family all the best!

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Chag May 11, 2007 at 3:21 am

Both of our children were induced, so we never got to experience the rush to the hospital madness.Good luck tomorrow!!!

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Blog Antagonist May 11, 2007 at 3:27 am

You know that as a former doula, I am the first to nay say unnecessary interventions. However, when it is administered judiciously by an experienced doctor or Midwife, it is not as bad as the horror stories would have you believe. Often it is no worse than “real” labor. The key is to start slow, and increase the dosage gradually until a consistent labor pattern is established, at which point, it can be reduced or even discontinued altogether. I’m sure that it will be fine. And I remember having all those feelings of sadness and guilt over what I was doing to my first born, but it fades very quickly. Best of luck to you tomorrow!

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Elaine May 11, 2007 at 3:33 am

Baby come out! YAY! We’re all looking forward to this new boos arrival!

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Mary Tsao May 11, 2007 at 3:47 am

I’m completely talking out my arse, but maybe your body will kick into gear now that it knows the pitocin is coming. I hope you’re in labor right now!

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movin'mom May 11, 2007 at 3:47 am

Well, induction is my middle name….(feel free to use it) Celebration is in the air!!!! I kinda hope you go in tonight, just so you have a “little” excitement…..because…how could driving to a hospital to give birth to a beautiful baby girl and suddenly becoming a mom of 2, a mom to sisters, a mom of a family of 4, not be the greatest way to spend the day. The topper will be introducing Thalia to her sister…..TAKE PICTURES!

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modmom May 11, 2007 at 4:52 am

how exciting! i hope you’re sleeping comfortably with your bags ready at the door!!!! how exciting!!! baby’s coming, open the door!!!your pregnancy has flown by for me, + i’m so happy for you! you might go into labor tonight, though, who knows?i am so honored to “know” you + i’m so happy for you mommy of 2 lucky babies! happy mother’s day!biggest webhugs!

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Robin May 11, 2007 at 5:27 am

Good luck and best wishes for a smooth and easy birth!And as FOM said, be prepared for Thalia to suddenly morph into Baby Huey the first time you see her – it’s really quite a phenomenon.

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Cristina May 11, 2007 at 5:32 am

Best of luck for an easy birthing and a healthy baby. You are in my thoughts!

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Spicy Tuna Roll May 11, 2007 at 6:40 am

soon, my love. soon, we will be together again…

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Lady M May 11, 2007 at 7:32 am

I also went the pitocin/induction route (due to pre-eclampsia), and there was something both nice and surreal about walking into a hospital feeling so-ready to be done with the pregnancy, yet not-ready for the big day.Wishing you all the best for a safe birth and healthy baby!

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Mahlers On Safari May 11, 2007 at 7:37 am

Mom 201. I can’t say that I experienced the rush to the hospital (scheduled C-section) or the thrill of having baby #1 meet baby #2 (since mine met each other long before I met them being that they shared a womb), but still know that you have a very exciting, exhausting and exhilarating day ahead of you! Good luck! I’ll be thinking of you over here on the other side of the world!

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the new girl May 11, 2007 at 10:26 am

Yeah,Go open that door, sister.Best, best of luck to you.

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CKS May 11, 2007 at 12:33 pm

I’ll be thinking of you all day! I know that feeling leaving your first… when I was pregnant with Daniel I used to play the Rainbow Connection with Josh (it was the summer of The Muppet Movie) and just weep. It seems such a huge thing.And it is huge. And sometimes really tough. But from the perspective of this end of the child-rearing spectrum, I see two men who are close friends and share so much more than DNA. Siblings with wise parents like the two of you are blessed with one another as well as the love their parents bring them…We’ll be waiting with bells on for the news. 8<)

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Coffee Please! May 11, 2007 at 12:52 pm

WTF?They schedule induction and not TELL you? LOL.

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Sarah, Goon Squad Sarah May 11, 2007 at 1:02 pm

Man, if they could have held out one more day she could have shared a birthday with The Goon Squad.I still think that induction is a thing they should mention to the mother. Don’t you?

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ladybug May 11, 2007 at 1:19 pm

Just wanted to say, I was induced with pitocin too, and it wasn’t that bad. Like Fidget, I have almost no tolerance for pain, but it was manageable. Started on the pitocin at 7 pm, and my beautiful daughter was born at 2:14 am, so not that long either. Good luck and best wishes to you and your family.

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me May 11, 2007 at 1:24 pm

darn it, a night of little league and I miss the big news. Hope all goes wonderfully

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Kelly May 11, 2007 at 1:34 pm

Best wishes for little pain and much joy. Hoping everything goes really well.

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FishyGirl May 11, 2007 at 1:41 pm

Best wishes for a quick, easy, low-pain, high health labor. And a healthy baby and mama on the other end.

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