I admit that Mother’s Day can be an afterthought for me these days. Not that my own mother is ever an afterthought–but by mid-May I’m generally coming off a whirlwind month at Cool Mom Picks with our own Mother’s Day Gift Guide–and by the way have you been there yet?
(This might be a good time. Great gift ideas, most of which support small mom-run businesses, and a $700 giveaway, yo.)
And then there’s Sage, who happened to be born the very same week, and has the audacity to expect things like cupcakes and a party to commemorate the occasion. To top it off, Mother’s Day, like many holidays, is often preceded by several of my very favorite kind of conversations between Nate and me, the ones that includes, “well, what do you want to do?” back and forth until the plans gel. Or don’t.
Even so, it’s never a letdown. Ever. At all.
Just receiving two hastily scribbled crayon cards from the girls and a few extra kisses makes my morning, and last year they “bought” me two teeny necklaces that I rarely take off to this day. I’m generally offered a few hours off for a pedicure or some reading time in the coffee shop and you know? Sometimes I’m even reluctant to take it because it’s such a joy to have the day with my family.
All in all, pretty awesome.
It’s the kind of thing that makes me feel wildly lucky. Especially (because this is where my head is at these days) as my thoughts turns towards those who don’t have such good fortune. Single moms who don’t have a partner to nudge the kids towards the crayon box. Moms who have lost a child–or a mother, or a grandmother–this year, and are spending the day with emotions I can’t even imagine. Moms whose lives are so wrought with challenges they don’t have the liberty of expecting a gift or even special treatment for a day.
Sometimes just getting through a day is the gift.
Sorry, not trying to bring you down. But it’s that whole community of women thing I’m loving so much these days–we cheer when we’re up, and we lift one another when we’re down.
And I really wanted to honor a few women who are doing phenomenal things to support other mothers and babies right now. Please check them out if, like me, you’re feeling super blessed (in a perfectly non-denominational, no-God-required kind of way, of course) and want to pay it forward:
-Thanks to Julia Beck and Rebecca Levey who introduced me to the R Baby Foundation, an organization founded by parents Phyllis and Andrew Rabinowitz five years ago to help make sure hospitals are better staffed to handle pediatric emergencies because yikes, most aren’t. I was honored to learn more about them as part of the host committee for their fundraiser last night (see above for cute photobooth promotional photo thingie), and I hope you will too. The stats are pretty mindblowing, and it’s not hard to commit to an organization that is actually decreasing the number of preventable deaths. I’ve donated ad space to them, and I hope you’ll click over and sign the petition.
–Katherine Stone, my lovely friend behind the blog Postpartum Progress, hosts an annual Mother’s Day Rally for Mental Health. And it doesn’t even require actual physical rallying, or running shoes. That’s my kind of rally, and Katherine is my kind of hero.
–Lee Rhodes is one of many many women who creates gifts that give back. I loved learning about her company Glassy Baby last week at the Mom 2.0 summit, and these gorgeous, handblown votives make an awesome Mother’s Day gift. Or gift for yourself. Or gift for someone who would appreciate that their sales have raised nearly $1 million for terrific organizations.
–Christie Turlington Burns, as you probably know, has been remarkable in dedicating her considerable resources to Every Mother Counts with help from women like Heather Armstrong. EMC has got an interesting partnership right now with Dwell Studio and Hatch, via Pinterest. Create a pinboard showcasing your personal nursery style and $10 goes right to Every Mother Counts; plus you’re entered to win a $1500 giveaway. MomTrends details it really nicely.
Do you have a favorite mom or group supporting other parents? Feel free to give it a shout-out in the comments. I’m always up for learning more. And psst…feel free to have a bloody mary too on Sunday. I will.